I’ve not blogged much about my family life so far. It’s mainly been about my course and games. So here is an update on me as a father, husband, and how things are generally working out.
When the babies Samuel and Maisie were first born it was the best feeling in the world. Going from a couple enjoying time together, to a family was a big change. The energy levels dropped and still continue to remain low as the children require constant care. No matter how much sleep, rest, or timeout time I get the feeling of being able to do anything you wanted during a day seems to have gone never to return. But this is just a small price to pay when you look and see what great children we actually have. And I’m sure this goes for many other parents out there also.
Samuel and Maisie are great. Everyone can catch up on their latest photos and videos at the Rayment Family Website. They have grown at an unexpected rate over the past year. Now on the brink of walking fully, Samuel is still the go getter of the two when at home playing. But recently has become a bit of a wuss after some jabs and an illness. No doubt he will be back up and to his usual smiley self soon. There is just one thing I want for Samuel and that is for him to learn how to sleep all the way through the night. At this point I don’t mind him having a night time bottle and a 5:30am bottle. It’s the constant randomness of his waking that I’d like him to sort out. The evenings are the only time that Clare and I get alone, and these are getting shorter and shorter as we go to bed earlier and earlier. By the time we’ve had dinner, washed up, sat down to relax there is about 1 hour left. And even that time gets interrupted by a Samuel wake up call!
If Samuel became more like Maisie with regards to sleep then I’m sure he too would wake up smiling and full of energy rather than screaming and wanting to flop to sleep again. Maisie smiles make any morning a fantastic start. She is happy, bouncy and certainly knows what she wants as she points at things and says “This!”. Sometimes it’s not clear what “this” is, but after a few goes we soon get her what she wants. And sometimes not if the “this” is dangerous or simply not for children!
Talking seems to be Maisie’s specialty. Not interested in walking so much , she rambles on about things and we hope soon to be able to decipher and understand.
Being a stay-at-home Dad I get to spend a lot of time with the children. This is certainly time I enjoy and have been very lucky to get the opportunity to do. During the day we try to stick to routines. Breakfast followed by playing and a bit of kids tv. Then naps gives me a chance to catch up on housework, laundry, and maybe a bit of computer time. Then a bit more playing before lunch. Then the afternoon is open to going out. If it’s a nice day we go play on the swings and then walk round the pond. Some days we may go out to the shops and buy a few things needed for the cupboards/kitchen. And we may also do a bit of visiting. Then at the end of the day, Clare gets home, dinner for the children, a quick play before bath and bed.
I have been a bit rubbish with the socialising bit. I really need to start arranging meet up days so Samuel and Maisie at least get a chance to play with some of their friends and not just each other and their Dad. This is going to happen over the next few weeks for sure!
When we do go out and about I feel so proud of my children as people passing look at them and then look at me and smile. Again I’m so proud of the children when we’re out and they are so well behaved. No screams at the restaurants, no tantrums while shopping. I do sympathise with them a bit when they get bored either in supermarkets or queuing in the bank or post office. But overall they are children with good behaviour and good manners.
I have been writing this while Samuel naps next to me on the bed upstairs. Looking over at him it’s hard not to love the scraggy haired long finger nailed little monster pj wearing boy breathing slowly dreaming of wonderful things. I love Maisie just as much, but she is off napping happily in another room.